Express in the World What is Held in Your Heart:
Part Three
In THE BOOK OF AWAKENING (I am reading one
reflection per day this entire year), Mark Nepo speaks regularly of the need to
be honest about one’s own feelings (whether it be sad, angry, hurt, light
hearted, filled with love) to ourselves and to others. To voice,
compassionately, what one is truly feeling inside. To express the truth of who
we internally are, instead of creating a facade to present to the world.
My writing is not as poetic as Nepo’s. He words
things like this:
As the sun
cannot withhold its light, we cannot what feels real. As the Earth keeps going
by turning itself toward the light day after day, we have no choice, despite
all forms of etiquette and training, but to keep turning toward what we feel is
real. Otherwise, we become cold little planets spinning in the dark.
Don’t withhold your light. Share it.
Authentically Yours,
Laura
Express in the World What is Held in Your Heart:
Part Two
In THE WISDOM OF MENOPAUSE, Christiane Northrup
describes not only the physical, but also mental, emotional and spiritual
changes a woman goes through in mid-life during perimenopause and menopause.
This must be the Menopause Bible of the world – it is almost exhaustingly
detailed in health related areas (hormones, bones, thyroid function, etc.) of
the physical body.
Where the theme aligns with the other books is how
in mid-life (which I can vouch for from my own experience) women are simply not
willing to put up with crap anymore. Divorces tend to happen during this phase,
after years and years of marriage. I personally know two women who have
divorced their respective spouses after having been together for around two
decades. Both are just a few years younger than I am.
After years of putting their own desires on hold
to raise families, provide emotional or other types of support for spouses,
keep the household running smoothly, etc., there comes a time. A time when hormones
are changing, it’s not about nesting anymore, and a woman simply must start
saying “no” to the demands of others and “yes” to those from deep within herself
to take care of her own needs.
Early on in the book, Northrup describes a
gentleman who was utterly shocked when his wife uncharacteristically stood up
and threw a plate of roast leg of lamb (or some such thing) right out the
window at the dinner table. He blamed her “craziness” on hormones and the
emotional charge of her change of life. More likely accurate is his wife –
after years of simmering frustration and anger – simply reached a boiling point
wherein enough was enough and she simply wasn’t going to keep playing her prescribed
role anymore.
If the woman doesn’t change, she will wind up
miserable and ill, and noone around her will be happy either. So either the
marriage stays the same with everyone miserable until death does someone part,
it changes, or it ends.
This transition is an opportunity to move into a
new future, with clear intentions and nurturing of self. I say CHEERS to that!
Authentically Yours,
Laura
Express in the World What is Held in Your Heart:
Part One
I used to be a finish-one-book-before-starting-another
kind of gal. I’m not anymore. Often I like to have one fiction and at least one
non-fiction book (more and more on my Nook) going at the same time. Now I
prefer to spread my attention around a bit, yet focus on each directly while I
am there. In fact, I am reading more books right now than I remember ever
reading all at once before.
And I am struck by how the same theme keeps surfacing
in different formats, by different authors. It goes something like this: Let
your outer and inner lives be congruent. Express in the world what is held with
love in your heart. You knew what you wanted when you were 7 years old; don’t
let the world stop you from recovering and doing it now.
With all this richness, a four part series has
presented itself! Here is part one.
In THE VEIN OF GOLD, Julia Cameron describes how
she nabbed the title and concept from interviewing the now deceased brilliant
film director Martin Ritt. Here is my paraphrase of what Cameron wrote: It was Ritt who directed NORMA RAE, the film
that changed our impression of Sally Field from Gidget to an actress of depth
and stature. Ritt had a theory about actors and brilliance. He called it the
vein of gold. He said that all actors have a certain territory, a certain
range, they were born to play, and that is their vein of gold. If you cast an
actor within that range they will always give you a brilliant performance. As a
writer-director myself, years afterwards, I found my mind circling back to Ritt
and his theory. I saw evidence of its validity everywhere, and not just among
actors.
I have noticed the same thing, within myself and in
observing others. Some things we feel like we “have” to do. Some tickle our
interest and we think we wanna try. Others we feel we “must”, or we aren’t
truly living.
Should is
how others want us to show up in the world—how we’re supposed to
think, what we ought to say, what we should or shouldn’t
do… Must is different—there aren’t options and we don’t have a choice. Must is
who we are, what we believe and what we do when we are alone with our truest,
most authentic self. –elle luna.
I send cheers and congratulations to all who
choose to mine their inner vein of gold, who decide to live in the must.
Authentically Yours,
Laura
The Best Relationship Ever
I am simply overcome by feelings of love and
gratitude for my partner and the relationship we have created together.
I wrote this segment weeks ago, and am now posting
it on the day of our housewarming party, Easter Sunday, 2014. George and I
moved into this home together March 8, after signing a year-long lease. Today
we celebrated with beautiful friends, delightful new neighbors, and delicious
food.
My heart is overflowing.
There was a period of time in which I had little interest
in dating and was convinced I would never – ever – live – with – a man – again.
Ever. As long as I lived.
But then something changed.
Into my life, at age 48, came the best partner I could
hope for and by far the best relationship I have ever had.
We had both been married before for 12 years and
divorced for several years. When neither of us were looking for a relationship,
but both were open to one if it was a great one and Divinely inspired, the fire
erupted and romance blossomed.
I feel so full of joy, grateful, hot, taken care
of, happy to take care of, in sync, that I wish I could give everyone the magic
bullet.
I’m sure everything George and I have both gone
through in past relationships, and the inner work we have done on ourselves,
brought us both to this point with Divine timing.
Yet all I can come up with for the magic bullet (after
you get past the pheromone part and how you just want to curl up into the
other’s body) is this. Two things.
1) We speak honestly and compassionately with each
other from our hearts. About virtually everything.
2) We each care deeply about the other’s feelings.
(And then there’s that little thing about how our
astrology charts synchronize so nicely, but you would want to connect with
David Mohler about that.)
Cheers to YOUR magic bullet in whatever area of
your life you want it in. J I wish you all the happiness in your romantic relationship that I have
in mine. It was worth the wait.
Authentically Yours,
Laura
SEVEN MASTER MIND PRINCIPLES
I RELEASE myself to the Master Mind because I am
strong when I have others to help me.
I BELIEVE the combined intelligence of the Master
Mind creates a wisdom far beyond my own.
I UNDERSTAND that I will more easily create
positive results in my life when I am open to looking at myself and my problems
and opportunities from another’s point of view.
I DECIDE to release my desire totally in trust to
the Master Mind and I am open to accepting new possibilities.
I FORGIVE myself for mistakes I have made. I also
forgive others who have hurt me in the past so I can move into the future with
a clean slate.
I ASK the Master Mind to hear what I really want;
my goals, my dreams and my desires, and I hear my Mastermind partners support
me in my fulfillment.
I ACCEPT—I know, relax and accept; believing that
the working power of the Master Mind will respond to my every need. I am
grateful knowing this is so.
Authentically Yours,
Laura
Creating a Wishweaving Circle
My life changed in 1999 when I helped create a
women’s group founded for the “soul” purpose of helping each other realize our
dreams and goals. Becoming involved with this group, which was named M to the
Sixth Power (M/6 for short), was a pivotal moment for me—a choice which changed
the direction of my future. It led to the first Wishweavers Workshop in 2000,
the creation of my business of the same name, and the writing of my first book.
You can create a group like this, too. I describe
exactly how in SIX DEGREES TO YOUR DREAMS, which is available in several
on-line stores, including Amazon.
Here is sample verbiage you could use for written
materials or a verbal introduction at your first meeting. Next post, I will
include Seven Master Mind Principles which can be read at the start of every
meeting.
Congratulations on taking a step toward making
your dreams come true, and to helping others weave their wishes!
Wishweavers operates from the philosophy that
within no more than six degrees from you are the people, resources, ideas and
support to help you make your deepest wishes and most heartfelt desires a
reality. Someone knows someone, who knows someone, who knows someone who has
what you need to make your dreams come true. You have the ideas, resources and
know the people to help others weave their wishes as well.
Six degrees of connection means everyone on
earth can be connected using six associations or less. Reflect for a moment on
what this truly means. Six associations or less. This is powerful. You are—at
most—no more than six steps away from accomplishing whatever goal you want to
accomplish, achieving whatever dream you want to achieve.
A Wishweavers experience is directed,
interactive and participatory. All people in attendance have the opportunity to
discover, clarify, define and affirm their dreams and wishes—and share
resources, information, contacts and strategies with others. Each participant
walks out with a design, a treasure map, in place.
Each individual’s contribution is cherished and
important. We help each other align with our most heartfelt wishes and give
each other the tools to create the reality of our dreams. It’s no coincidence
you’re reading this. There’s a reason you were drawn to it. Someone is dreaming
you into their life right now so you can help them weave a wish, and someone is
out there just waiting to hand you the key to unlocking the life of your
dreams. Simply by taking the first step, you’re changing universal energy in
incredibly positive ways.
Congratulations. Welcome to your dream.
Authentically Yours,
Laura
The Power of Words and Thoughts
From www.tut.com
(Mike Dooley)
You know,
Laura, a kind word can move mountains and change lives. But for those times when they’ve escaped you,
when the right thing wasn’t said, or the time wasn’t right to say it, kind
thoughts can do the same.
And better,
thoughts have a way of lingering, seeking, and finding their intended
beneficiary, unfettered by time and space. So it’s never too late to think ‘em,
nor are you ever too far away.
Just a
little something a tree once told me.
The Universe
Authentically Yours,
Laura
